Couples often stop by the store and ask questions about proper wedding etiquette. I thought it might be helpful to address some of the most common concerns.
1. Etiquette says that if the invitation is addressed to your friend and a guest, she is free to bring whomever she chooses. However, if you address the invitation to your friend and her significant other by name, technically they’re both on the guest list.
2. Your parents want to invite all their friends but you want a small gathering: He who foots the bill has the power! If your parents are paying for the wedding, you certainly should consider who they would like to invite. However, it’s still your wedding. Have a private and honest discussion with your parents if you are uncomfortable with their choices. Try to reach a reasonable compromise.
3. Never include registry information in your invitation: This is a big no-no. People will usually ask you directly, or ask a parent or other family member where you are registered. It’s fine to list this information if you have a wedding website. People who truly want to put thought into a gift will be sure and find out.
4. Who should be invited? Be sure to invite close relatives, of course! And, you’ll want to include meaningful friends. Think about the total guests you can accommodate and expand your list accordingly.
5. Bridesmaids Gifts: A lovely and thoughtful bridesmaids gift is appropriate since these ladies are special friends who have expenditures as your maidens. Personalized gifts are always welcome and appropriate. Price range depends on your budget – think anywhere between $50 – $100 each.
6. Who pays for the bridesmaids dresses: Bridesmaids are generally expected to pay for their own wedding-day ensemble (shoes and jewelry included). Talk to your bridesmaids individually about any financial concerns, and tactfully work out a solution that suits both of you — maybe you will pay for half or all of the cost. Above all, try to choose a dress that’s reasonably priced, or consider letting your maids choose their own gown. Give some color/style requirements (i.e., black and ankle length), and ask them to show you the dress for the final approval.
7. Accommodation expenses: The bridal party is usually responsible for paying their own way, just like they pay for what they’ll wear to your wedding and for their travel to get there. Ordinarily, you will be able to reserve a block of rooms at a discount for your out-of-town guests, which will help with the expense. Hotel information is usually listed on the wedding website to assist guests who are invited. Often, accommodation information is written on a separate insert, included in the wedding invitation, along with the response set.
Hope this helps with the basics – feel free to stop by the store and allow us to help with any questions or concerns you may have when planning your special day!