Most everyone is familiar with a monogram (an inscribed set of initials), but have you ever heard of a duogram?
Traditionally, formal wedding invitations were sent from the bride’s family, announcing the marriage of their daughter, and often featured a prominent monogram of the bride’s initials.
These days, more people are getting married later in life (into their 30’s or older) and often, the bride and groom are absorbing some (if not all) of the wedding costs themselves. Therefore, wedding invitations are often sent on behalf of the couple, not just the bride and her family. Thus, the introduction of the duogram has emerged as a common feature on invitation suites and corresponding thank you notes, menus, stickers on favor bags, etc.
A duogram incorporates both the bride and grooms first initials, sometimes featuring the first initial of the grooms last name in the center. This is definitely a little uncomfortable for traditionalists out there, who feel that the bride has not assumed his name until the wedding date and should not be “jumping the gun” by incorporating the new surname name before marriage, but hey … rules were meant to be broken!
To strike a happy medium between traditional and modern, some couples elect to use just the first initials of their first names, or even both sets of first and last initials.
Do what makes you comfortable, but know that these days, just about anything goes!